'Your goal is not to find love, but to remove all barriers which are preventing you from receiving it. – Rumi​

Conflict can be an opportunity for communication and intimacy. I will guide you in learning new skills to communicate and interact with compassion and share real feelings with honesty and accountability in a non-blaming way. You will learn to empathise with one another’s experience and seek to counter conflict and confrontation with empathy and acceptance. ​It is the beginning of a shared perspective to find a place of constructive connection brought about by communication and trust.

Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy focuses within a 100% non-blaming framework on identifying the negative cycle that you uniquely repeat in your relationship dynamic. Your pattern of conflict - in your attack/defend/retreat cycles - is your distinctive and predictable co-created dynamic that you each automatically and subconsciously contribute to. With insight into deep-rooted emotionally charged attachment needs and fears that contribute to this engrained, destructive dynamic, you will understand how you trigger one another and learn to pause and respond rather than react, defend or avoid, so that change, growth and mutual understanding become possible.